List of categories of parties and events you can be invited to

In addition to the cocktail parties I host, I send out invitations to numerous other parties and events. In my database, I can specify which parties and events you're invited to, so that you don't receive invitations to events you are not interested in. If you're a "Yes" for, say, jazz concerts, that means if I'm rounding up people to go to Scullers, you'll be invited. If you are a "No," that means you won't be invited.

Please look at the list of parties and events and then change any categories you want to change. In almost all cases, when someone is added to the master invitation list, I initially start them as "Yes" for everything, and then wait for them to change their preferences.

Some things to note:

  1. You can choose any combination of parties and events you want. Some people on the list are only invited to the large cocktail parties, some only to the smaller cocktail parties, most ask to be invited to everything. There are a few people on my invitation list who have requested that they not be invited to any of my cocktail parties but wish to be invited to other events; that is fine with me.
  2. The categories are the categories, and we do not offer more specificity than what is indicated. Classical music (B-1) includes, for example, soloists, chamber music and symphonic music. You can't say "Send me invitations for chamber music but not for symphonic orchestras."
  3. Except for A-3 Other Parties, you cannot specify the price range of events you are invited to. If you sign up for classical music, you'll receive invitations to free concerts as well as concerts costing $75 per person.
  4. For the large cocktail parties, you cannot choose to be invited to only the ones with dancing or only to the ones without dancing — either you're invited to the large cocktail parties or you are not.
  5. A-3 Other Parties includes everything under the sun, and assuming you like to go to parties, I recommend that you sign up for them (choose the price ranges you can afford). My annual Super Bowl, Fourth of July, and New Years Eve parties all fall under A-3 (a) Inexpensive.
  6. There is no "Maybe" option. Either you're on a certain invitation list or you are not.
  7. We do not offer the option of controlling how many invitations per week or month you receive. If you ask to receive invitations for art gallery openings, and in one week I receive invitations for six openings that I think will be good, then you'll receive six announcments that week. (This has never happened nor will it, but you get the point.) Obviously the more categories you sign up for, the more invitations you will receive.
  8. We offer the ability to suspend your membership until any date in the future. If you do so, you will not receive any invitations in any categories until the date you specify. If you wish to suspend receiving invitations only in certain categories (e.g., for the next year, you do not wish to be invited to the large cocktail parties because you are taking classes on Monday and Tuesday evenings, but you do wish to be invited to the smaller cocktail parties, since they are given on various nights of the week), you should not suspend your membership. Instead, you should simply choose "No" for whatever categories you don't wish to receive invitations. You will need to change your response to "Yes" in the future for these categories if in the future you wish to receive invitations for them; I'm not going to remind you to do so.
  9. Just because I've listed a particular event below does not mean I will necessarily send out invitations for that category — e.g., I haven't been to a professional sporting event in the last decade and it's unlikely that I will do so in the future. My intention was to list everything under the sun, even if I thought it would be unlikely I would ever attend.
  10. I ask that you RSVP for the large and smaller cocktail parties and some of the other events that I will invite you to. You can tell that an RSVP is requested because the invitation begins with "RSVP --". For everything else, you do not need to RSVP if you will not be attending.

  11. Two of of the categories are speed dating parties (A-4) and singles parties (A-5). In almost all cases, I start everyone off as "Yes" for all categories. Even if I know you are married, I don't change this category because frankly it would be too much work. (We'll be adding about 2,500 people to the invitation list in the next 12 months.) So if you don't want to be invited to speed dating and/or singles parties (or any other category), simply say "No" for those categories.

  12. In choosing which categories you select, you should first decide how many Evite invitations you wish to receive — the more categories you select, the more you will receive. If you're primarily worried about not hearing about certain parties and events, then you should pick a broader range of categories; the only downside is that you will receive some invitations for events you are not interested in. If on the other hand you're primarily worried about receiving too many e-mails, there you should pick a narrow range of categories. Your downside, however, is that you will not hear about some parties and events you may be interested in. The tradeoff is obvious and only you can decide which is better for you.

List of categories of parties and events you can be invited to